Love is about so much more than feelings. It is about mutual appreciation & admiration. It does not require something in return.
The purpose of all relationships is to go there to give, to meet each other's needs, to share completeness and create beautiful memories!
Therefore, a healthy relationship does not drag you down; it inspires you to be better.
In a healthy environment, people place a high value on keeping the relationship and are willing to communicate; listen, and understand each other to work things out in a calm and loving way.
Therefor people are always motivated to share their thoughts & feelings freely as they feel valued, heard and appreciated.
How to get people to be who they really are and speak what they feel?
First: Choose the right time!
Give them the needed space so that they can connect with themselves.
You can’t make anyone feel secure around you. Either they trust you and will open to you, or they won’t.
Second: Create a Safe Environment
Create a safe & trust environment where they feel you really care about them and what they are going to say without judgment! Third: Listen
Listen with intent to understand not to reply! It is easy to judge, it is more difficult to understand! Do not expect people to be with you on the same page. "If we are all on the same page, no one is reading the whole book".
Fourth: Acknowledge & Reciprocate Emotions are at the heart of every interaction. Little acts can change the end of every story. Show empathy! Everyone we meet is fighting a battle we know nothing about! There are many sad eyes on happy faces. There is a story behind every person. There is a reason why they are the way they are. Think about that before judging someone as you may know their names, but not their stories. Apologize if needed! Yes it takes courage to stand up & speak, it takes more to sit & admit your mistakes! Fifth: Ask Good Quality Questions! Ask them how they feel & what they want to happen.. Let them see by themselves how it is possible to go over what they currently feel or face. Remember! Most people need love & acceptance a lot more than they need advice. “Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” Rumi Let us be the light in this dim world!
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